Surviving the Holidays, Part 1
By Tarri Otterlee
The energies of the holidays are both positive and negative. These energies vary based on the different degrees of vibrational frequencies – remember that “everything is energy.
For some it is a season filled with hope and anticipation of family gatherings filled with love and kindness.
For some it is a time to enjoy Christmas concerts filled with the music of the season. A time to see the joy on children’s faces and honoring the Christian prophet Jesus.
For some it is a time to share with friends and loved ones.
For some it is a time to shop, overspending and maxing out credit cards to get all the great deals the retailers have to offer. The New Year hangover is debt and financial stress.
Some of us party, eat and drink too much celebrating the Holidays. It can be fun while it lasts but also can be stressful and unhealthy for us.
Then there are those who are physically and/or emotionally alone. The holidays intensify their loneliness and feelings of unhappiness and, yes, despair.
The Christmas holidays are stressful for the majority of people in one way or another. Stress mentally or emotionally can and will manifest into an illness. Stress affects your immune system that protects you from illness and disease, keeping it from working at its full capacity. My recommendation is to follow the old wisdom of “everything in moderation” – don’t overdo and don’t over extend yourself. Take care of yourself so you can take care of others.
When you are feeling stressed take some time for yourself, quiet time. Try meditation, a walk in nature, and do something nice for yourself like getting a massage or an energy treatment. Do something nice for someone else, too. A little kindness feeds your body and your heart.
May your holidays be filled with peace, love and kindness. Take care of each other always.
Wishing everyone Happy Holidays and an Abundant New Year!
Surviving the Holidays, Part 2
By Kris Rued-Clark
No matter how much you may enjoy the holiday season, you can still feel overwhelmed by a too big “to do” list. Have the courage to say “no.” Women, especially, tend to take on too much, and that’s particularly true during the holidays. Just because “we’ve always done it that way” is no reason to keep doing it. Have a family meeting. What’s important to each member? Are they willing to help? For example, I love a Christmas tree, but don’t care if I do any other holiday decorating, so a tree is plenty for us. As entertaining is not my strong suit, we may have a few casual, impromptu visits, but we don’t plan parties or dinners at our house.
We invite you to have the courage to edit your “to do” list. Do only what you truly value. Love holiday cookies? Two or three batches, eaten at the peak of freshness, are better than a dozen batches made under stress. Feel free to turn down invitations that don’t fill your heart with joy at the prospect. Allow yourself to stretch the holiday season by scheduling get-togethers in January or even later.
Give experiences rather than more stuff, especially experiences that schedule self-care in your holiday routine. How about a spa day for sisters to replace a baking binge at someone’s home? Share a couple’s massage. Give yourself the gift of an energy healing session. Plan a post-holiday retreat. During stressful times, picture yourself on your retreat. It doesn’t have to be a tropical island. Many spiritual retreat centers offer affordable, nurturing retreats for a day or a weekend. You will find a spiritual retreat to be nourishing for body, heart, mind, and spirit.
One of the best ways to de-stress – do for others. Most communities have giving trees or angel trees that make it easy to select a gift that will be both needed and appreciated. Replace exchanging gifts with co-workers, friends, or family with a giving project for someone who really needs it. With exploding inequality, many children are drowning in toys, while so many others have so little. Rather than giving more gifts to those who already have so much, take on a project as a family.
At night when you go to bed, replace that “to do” list running through your head with a listing of all the things you’re grateful for. Warm clothes, a dependable car, a furnace that works, hot and cold running water – feeling grateful for all the everyday miracles in our lives calms and relaxes and sets the stage for waking up the next morning cheerful and well-rested
The way you live during the holiday season is just a magnification of the way you live throughout the year. Be kind to yourself and others. Do what brings you joy. Choose a few holiday traditions that are most meaningful to you and scrap the rest. Best of all, let go of guilt over how things should be. Trust yourself to know what’s best for you.